Stuck in an online interracial dating rut? Update your profile, and you could be on your way to forever love.
Anyone who has ever participated in dating of any kind will probably agree on one thing – it can be tough out there. Whether you’re into traditional in-person dating, or open to meeting people online, there are so many pitfalls that it can be tough to keep yourself going. Dating online can be especially tricky, especially as the market is now saturated with different apps promising the world to have dates – or just a quick hook-up if that’s what they’re looking for.
You know the deal. Two people get matched on a dating app, have a nice chat, and decide to meet in real life. If they like each other, maybe they’ll meet again and again. Perhaps it will turn into lasting love. But then, if you’ve solely been matching with people who aren’t on your wavelength, or who think of a particular advertising, aspects of their anatomy is the way to have you falling at their feet. You might want to shake things up a bit and see if it improves. While you sadly can’t change the fact that that’s just the way some people do things, you can help yourself out by making sure your profile reflects what it is you’re looking for.
It’s especially important to do this if you’re in a demographic that’s less supported by some dating apps. If you’re LGBTQ+, have an interest in interracial dating or even have an odd fetish, it may be tough to find someone perfect for you.
Be yourself.
The single most important thing to do when creating or updating your online profile is to be yourself. It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people adjust how they communicate their personality to seem more appealing. But then, the type of people you want to meet are the ones who would love you for you, right? Because of this, make sure you’re honest and true to who you are. There’s someone out there who’s a perfect match.
Choose carefully.
More isn’t always better! Of course, you want people to get in touch. However, if you don’t want just anyone messaging you out of the blue because you might hit it off (despite not having a single thing in common), make sure that comes across in your profile – not just your likes and dislikes, or who you are or aren’t keen to hear from, but also the ‘whys’ behind those decisions. This will help potential matches get a better idea of what you’re looking for, and whether they should get in touch. Don’t be afraid to be specific!
Stay positive.
If you’re exhausted by the whole dating thing, it can be hard to stay motivated and positive to keep going. But then again, being positive, and having that mindset come across in your profile, is extremely important if you want to meet someone great. Bring a positive vibe to every interaction, and it will come across. Be negative, and people won’t want to be around you.
Be real.
As we mentioned earlier, it’s easy to fall into the trap of embellishing your profile to seem more appealing. This is a sure-fire way to disappointment; you wouldn’t like it if a date lied to you, so don’t lie to them. Be honest about who you are, what you look like, and what you’re into. That way, neither of you will get any surprises when you do eventually meet. It’s also not the best basis for a new relationship to feel you have to conceal things about yourself. Just be you!